“I kept thinking of an old Robert Mitchum cowboy movie where he goes back to see the farmhouse where he was born and finds the house falling apart and an old man living in it by himself. “Lonely place,” Robert Mitchum says. The old man says, “Nothing wrong with a lonely place as long as it’s private. That’s why I never married. Marriage is lonely, but it ain’t private.” That was always my most intense fear about getting married: When everything sucked and I was by myself, I thought, Well, at least I don’t have another miserable person to worry about. I figured if you gave up your private place and it still turns out to be lonely, you’re just screwed. ”
— (Love Is a Mix Tape: Life and Loss, One Song at a Time)
My fear is picking the wrong guy, then waking up after the fact and all of my insides feel like they’re plummeting as the realization hits.
So, my credo is: “Choose wisely, treat kindly.” (credit to Dr. Laura)